When I was a kid, my mother once told me that love is an inevitable force. I grew up believing her – even when I didn’t want to. As I fell in and out of love and lost myself in the process of loving someone else, I realized how “inevitable” love can be.
No one falls in love with a thought of coming out of it. We want to be “in love” forever. Sadly, our lives don’t always work like that. Too often, it takes away the love of our life in the most unceremonious way. Almost all of us have seen how effortlessly our “twin flame” can become the “one that got away”. With time, we realize that just because we have found our soulmate, it doesn’t mean that we’ll get a miracle to spend the rest of our life with them.
When we find “the one”, our entire life comes to a standstill. It is only after when they become just another ex, an utter chaos takes over our life. No matter how heartbreaking it might sound, even a devastating or failed relationship can end up giving you some thoughtful life lessons. This is what you might learn when your soulmate becomes somebody you used to know.
1 You understand that nothing really lasts forever. No matter how much we try, there are a few things in this world that are just not meant to be.
2 It stops being about them. You start contemplating every move you make, which gives you a chance to grow yourself. Your solitude ends up being your biggest teacher.
3 You lose a part of your heart, but you add a bigger part to your soul. You start outgrowing yourself after acknowledging your worth.
4 It teaches you that almost every relationship is temporary and comes with an expiry date. This brings you closer to your friends and family. You overlook their flaws and start valuing the people you love.
5 You stop settling for anything ordinary. As you learn that every relationship demands time and effort, you no longer get attracted to people who show the least bit of interest in your life.
6 You realize that there is no such thing as “the one”. You just fall in love differently with everyone and it’s completely fine.
7 You start enjoying everything that the world has to offer. The moment you come out of a solitary phase, you learn that there is so much more to life than the idea of love.
8 You understand that there are a few roads that are not meant to be traveled again. Somehow, against your will, you stop running back to the one who once meant everything to you.
9 No matter how angry or sad you feel, you don’t stop believing in love.
10 You start picking your battles wisely. After giving your whole to someone, you realize that not everything in this world is worth fighting for.
11 Yes, you do love again. But this time, you stay extremely cautious. You know how terrible it feels to bid goodbye to the one you love and that makes you wiser.
12 Gradually, you realize that you are going to be whole again. It is just getting to that day, which scares and excites you, both at the same time.
13 With every passing day, you learn that life goes on and that there is a deeper calling for you.
14 You make peace with yourself, knowing that love might be an inevitable force, but it definitely is not the strongest one.
No matter how chaotic it might feel at times, you need to understand that this ending makes perfect sense. You have to tame this storm and let it inspire you. Take all the anguish and grief that you are feeling and use it to make your life a work of art.